There is something about death, something about it, especially when it’s the first news that greets one upon waking and painfully so when you hear it has robbed earth of one more person who never got to fully experience the waking of an outside world away from its mother’s womb.
There is something about their funerals; funerals of children we hoped would outlive us.
For the past one month my relationship with death has been transformed. It’s as if me and death have shaken hands and reached an understanding. I hear the Christians on funerals say “death has no sting.’ But what is this knife like pain that waltzed through my heart when I looked down at the earth that was a grave with a miniature body in it, and when I look at the helpless faces of the many women who have watched helplessly as the life that they carried within them limp with no life, just a body with no breath and a scaly like skin, as the women chorus songs of farewell and hold on to what could have been. And the mother consoling herself by saying ‘I’ll have another one”
If there is something that funerals of children have taught me, they are not filled with pretense. No one talks of the person they were, only of what they could have been. No long speeches of how this person was wonderful or allegations by ‘KNOW SAYERS’ of where they know the child is headed.
The further along I move in life, the further my understanding of death progresses. The only thing I’ve ever hoped for is that the children outlive me.
From then on, my approach is different. When someone asks me what I want at my funeral, I just tell them “Just talk about the time that you can verify while I was here. I’m already content that once my carcass hits the dirt, I’ll continue to be a vessel of life as those typically considered lower life forms shall make a home out of what was once my temple, and now their dwellings”. And put me next to the soil, not in a wooden box
My will shall officially be done
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