Anna Grace Awilli
One time, I made a post on my status, and my friend messaged me to take it down.
I took it down immediately. No questions asked.
Look, we are fallible. All of us. We will do things that make absolutely no sense at some point in our lives. To have people who can call you by the side and tell you, “Hey, look. This that you’re doing is not consistent with who you are.” is a privilege whose presence we should nurture and strive with our very lives to never lose.
If you can be honest with yourself, you will notice that the times you flew completely off the radar were also times when you had shut down voices that could have told you things that you needed to hear. You can also admit that when you are on a path that you know is objectively wrong, your heart is resistant towards the people who would point that out to you.
The basic level is to just be checkable- to have people who can ask you a question or two about the things that you’re doing and put you to task to explain them with satisfactory answers.
Not answers like, “Leave me alone to do my own thing.” “I can do whatever I want.” “This is my truth!” Reason being that we can truly feel good, happy and joyful with the things we are doing and still be woefully wrong.
Then, you need to take it up a notch higher. You need people who, when they tell you something- you do not even negotiate. You obey first, then ask questions later.
In a world where it is both a flex and a right to be whatever one wants to be and live however which way one wants to live, make the choice to be checkable and tellable.
“Ye ffe abatagambwako” (We are the untellable ones) is only a cute line for a song. In real life, it is a disaster.
Image: It was one of these people who made me take it down.
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