SINGLE PARENTING

Today I want to talk about a topic close to my heart. I feel I have some wisdom I can share with single parents.???. I know when I say wisdom, some of u will think that’s an alien concept. Shame on u????

A few days ago, I had an argument with a remnant on Facebook in relation to the video of the man praising Mbonye putting him above Abraham, Moses and Elijah. This, to me, was idiotic and I said so. In response to the said comment, he turns and says you are nothing but a bitter single mom. I was shocked.????. I wondered whether people still think like that. I have never expressed any bitterness about being a single parent. It was strange though I for some reason did not find it annoying. I felt sorry for him.

I then remembered a couple of weeks ago when Candice Owens made a statement attributing the rise in crime to single parenting. It was picked up by the traditional family people who made single parenting a crime worse than murder. The remakes by some activists made it seem like us single parents were raising robbers, serial killers and rapists. After all, they had no men to guide them through the world of good.

Society can be cruel. Kids at school will attack others coz they have no fathers. Teachers will also go out of their way to be cruel. I remember Stella Nyanzi complaining about a teacher who made stupid remakes about her son for among others not having a father in his life.

It has been on my mind. And I know many single parents face similar challenges. Just because we are single parents doesn’t make us bitter people. Society sometimes puts you down and makes you feel bad about your life. Women are subjected to remakes that this is happening because she is a slut, her bad manners made it impossible to keep the father of her child in her life. Few consider the possibility that maybe the father did not want to be a parent which happens more than we like.

Do I sometimes wish I had someone to share my struggles with? Of course. Do I sometimes wish I had a person to share with on her birthday and say, look at what we made? Of course I do. Do I wish that she had that man in her life to run to whom she can call daddy? A lot.

But here we are. My gratitude in my child supersedes any regrets and wishes I have. My child is surrounded by family, by my sisters who are also her moms and my brothers who love her to bits. Everyone has gone out of their way to feel in the gap when I have not been able to esp. my sister Flora

So I will tell you one thing, it is harder for us than other parents. But we can still do an excellent job. Remember, one of the biggest serial killers in the world was raised in a well-adjusted home. His father was a doctor and his mother a teacher. No one could understand what happened to him. The greatest president, Barrack Obama was raised by a single mom. He had a stepdad for a while and later his grandfather.

So, at the end of the day, we do the best we can, teach our kids all the best of who we are and live the negativity out. We do not let bitterness and society beat us down. We work with what we have and ensure we do the best we can. Surround the child with a community of your family and if your family is not that receptive, your friends can feel in the gap.

Almost forgot, nothing in the world beats the feel of her arms around my neck. And her screams of mummy mummy followed usually by gibberish I do not understand???

We live the rest to God. I am a firm believer that God did not give this child to let me fail her. I will keep living in that promise. So that’s why I share my happy face.