Not every marriage – or relationship – needs to be saved.

Beloved, this is a deeply unpopular opinion…

There are lots of people right now that are fighting to save marriages that are better off dead. Not every marriage – or relationship – needs to be saved. I don’t know who needs to hear this, but if you know someone who you think should, please share this message with them.

One of the most effective tools the devil uses to take the light out of God’s people and deter you from your divine path is chaotic romantic unions. These unions are usually unsatisfying, toxic in lots of ways, mired by incompatibility, and downright destructive.

These relationships cause a great of hurt, disappointments, betrayals, arguments, anguish, drama, and confusion, and their sole purpose is exactly that: to keep you negatively engaged and lacking, maintain you in a consistent low mood and low vibration that blocks out your joy and your capacity for divine creativity, and ultimately distract you from the work you should be doing with God.

The devil is a master of disguise. We all pray for the right life companion. As we pray, the devil works overtime to get in the way. Like he tempted Jesus in the wilderness, the devil will come at you with false love and fake promises. Be careful that that spouse you are breaking your sanity to keep isn’t the puppet the devil planted to confuse and conflict you, made to look like God’s chosen prince or princess for you had arrived.

Use discernment. The devil uses a bad marriage to shackle you because if you are a good Christian or other staunch believer, marriage is such an effective tool, being a bond(age) for life. With one bad marriage, the devil will not need to engineer a new way to hold you back and keep you down every two weeks or every three years. That spouse of yours will finish that work for him daily. He has you in his throes for life.

There is much great advice out there on how to repair, nurture and grow your marriage (shout out to the likes of Bump Love, and other content creators). But before you get on the journey to do the work in your marriage, on your relationship, please, start first by determining whether you are, in fact, in a divine union, or a trap.

No trap is too big for God to break, not even marriage. God needs you to break out of the traps of the enemy so you can walk with him to the abundance of love and joy that is the essence of God. If in doubt, a divine union looks and feels something like this, and even more:

• It is abundant.
•  It is kind.
• It is generous.
• It wants to grow with you and for you.
• It is considerate and thoughtful.
•  It is understanding.
• It is secure.
•  It is safe
• It is compatible.
• It brings you closer to God in joy and thanksgiving, not in cyclical despair and desperation.

.Prayer: Lord, I thank you for the grace you have placed upon me to let die what you are trying to kill in my life. What you are removing from my life is a foothold of the enemy, and everything is working in you for my own good. I bless you for the understanding you have given me to recognise that I have lost nothing, and I will gain everything.