Nannozi Faith
MAAMA NAKI’s TALES
Chapter two
Last time you left me about to give counseling to one of my married friends. Here is her story. She said that her husband is the quite type but hard to be with. She says he is very bitter and always says the meanest words when he is angry. She says his quietness is when he is happy, how weird! And sometimes threatens to send her back to her poverty stricken home back in the village. He always blames her for her mad uncle saying that sometimes she acts like him.
And when she doesn’t cook well she blames on her for learning late to cook since she learned after her form six. Five years before they got married. He also says she’s lazy since she can’t be as hardworking as her mother who is a single mom and took care of the three of them all alone.
He also always reminds her that he will never be like a sperm donor of a father in law who never took care of her and the siblings growing up. This and more he is always giving back the harsh words for a long time. She has been married for 10 years he stopped her from working and most of the time he is financially capable of taking care of them.
However as a counselor that I claim to be I observed some things. So I asked her a question. Who told him about those secrets about you and your family? Then she told me its always her when she wants him to communicate with him and he is quite.
That’s where all the trouble comes from. Just their women I say it again women even God doesn’t speak with you ocassionally doesn’t he love you? Why do you seek for attention from anyone even your spouse. A woman has to be a bit mysterious your man has to know about the current you and his children not about your mad uncle, not how bad you where at cooking growing up, not how strong your mother was a low brained man can use that against you. In my opinion my man doesn’t even have to know that steaming my face is the reason its tender.
Why should he know everything and have an opportunity to use it against you your giving him access to your weakness through your own mouth. I know this man can’t not be left with out taking the blame but fellow women let’s do better.
By the way I blamed her point blank and advised her to be more mysterious and cut off her conversations with this man who abused her psychologically. Putting the sad counseling session aside. After escorting her I found maama Jonah directing maama kasumba to the her juuju problem solving man all in the next chapter stay tuned for more.
Written by Faith the writer
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