BOYS | HOW MEN WHO CAN’T SPEAK WELL SUFFER

BOYS | HOW MEN WHO CAN’T SPEAK WELL SUFFER

He will struggle to lead, to earn, and to be understood.

I have sat on many interview panels and seen it happen again and again. Someone walks in with an impressive CV, solid qualifications, and real potential. But they lose the opportunity. Why? Because they cannot express themselves.

On the other hand, candidates with average papers but strong communication skills walk away with the job. Confidence. Clarity. Charisma. That is the difference.

In fact, over 50% of success in today’s world comes from your ability to speak eloquently. Public speaking, storytelling, and personal presentation skills unlock rooms that papers alone cannot.

Is your son a good public speaker? If not, this message is for you.

Let me tell you about Brian.

Brian was smart. Not just in class, but in life. He had big ideas. Creative ones. But every time he stood to speak, his voice froze, his palms sweated, and his thoughts scattered. He sat down in silence while others with less potential took the very opportunities that could have changed his life.

He missed leadership roles in school. He failed presentations in university, not because his ideas were poor, but because his words failed him. He lost a scholarship because he couldn’t express his passion in the interview, even though his written application was strong. Later, he lost customers, jobs, and relationships.

He struggled to express himself as a husband, then as a father. Misunderstood, he resorted to force. His family feared him. His sons turned out just like him, silent, frustrated, and angry.

What destroyed Brian?

It started young. He was always told to shut up. His mistakes were magnified. His voice was ignored. His opinions didn’t matter. He was expected to be seen, not heard, just like many boys in African homes. He cannot recall a single time his father looked him in the eye and said, “I believe in you.”

Brian never learned how to speak.

Everything we want in life; money, love, jobs, support, is in the hands of people. And you cannot force people. You must influence them. Influence rides on the power of words.

Public speaking is not just for microphones. It is for conversations, interviews, pitches, relationships, leadership, and business. It’s for everyone of us. It is the bridge between potential and progress.

When a boy can speak, doors open. Confidence grows. Respect follows. He doesn’t have to shout. He commands attention with grace.

That is why Public Speaking is a key part of the Boys-to-Men Mentorship Camp. We will do the same in Gulu (August). Kampala and Arua camps will happen in January 2026. To give your son a chance at life, a positive male influence, text us.

Banio Luiji Nobert

Coach | Speaker | Trainer | Author

Team Lead – Boys-to-Men Mentorship

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